What gets in the way of great relationships?

The key to great relationships starts with, as I know all too well, knowing, liking and trusting yourself.

shutterstock_220749814I know that’s easy to say but how do you know when you don’t?  The evidence is obvious, once you know where to look:

You beat yourself up, you keep your feelings to yourself, you have a hard time accepting compliments, you believe yourself to be helpless, you’re afraid to ‘rock the boat’, you insist you hate conflict, you allow other people to treat you carelessly, and much more.

Over time I’ve noticed something really interesting: the more I learn Read more »

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterShare on Google+Share on LinkedInPin on Pinterest

Why mistakes can be a confidence-booster

There was a time when I believed that, if only I had no more problems, challenges, disappointments and setbacks, then I would be happy.

shutterstock_220820908Of course, that was never going to happen. Problems happen, setbacks happen, I make mistakes, life happens. That’s unavoidable and part of being human.

It took me a long time to figure out that the only way to learn and grow, the only way to become wiser and more resilient is through problems, disappointments and setbacks.

But there’s a lot more to it.  It is said that a person who never failed, never tried anything so, when life happens, how do you know you can handle it? You know because Read more »

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterShare on Google+Share on LinkedInPin on Pinterest

Are you successful?

hOver the years I’ve noticed that, as I change, my definition of what success means to me changes too.

When I was young it was a question of the image I presented. I spent time, effort and money to look professional, warm and approachable – expensive clothes, jackets with padded shoulders, warm colours and natural fabrics. Part of the image included spending money on things I couldn’t really afford, all in an effort to appear ‘successful’. Read more »

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterShare on Google+Share on LinkedInPin on Pinterest