Don’t you wish it were easier?

This is what I know:

In order to keep learning and growing, we need to expand our comfort zone. Everybody knows that, right?

But then I came across this article that suggests that stepping beyond our comfort zone can not only be hard work but it can also be very uncomfortable, at least until we master whatever we wanted to learn.

hThat’s what it’s usually like to climb our learning curve, be it learning to drive, learning a new language or learning how to create better relationships.

The more we want something, the more we’re likely to be determined to succeed. And that’s Read more »

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What happened when I failed to listen to myself

shutterstock_220931875Something happened to me recently that brought on a memory.

It was November about 4 years ago – near Christmas but not near enough for me to slow down so I kept pushing myself. There was so much to do! Not just my work but my social life too. There were demands and expectations from people, and things I would normally handle easily, became a real challenge – like saying ‘No’.

Not only that, but Read more »

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How can one be authentically authentic?

I had been coached for some time when the subject of authenticity came up.

The timing was good. As part of being coached I had begun to drop some of my many masks and was experimenting with telling people whatever felt true to me. It was really scary but I was determined to change my relationships which, in those days, felt superficial. As I was yearning for closeness, I persisted.

shutterstock_189619739I noticed that, overall, people responded well but I also noticed, eventually, that there was one person I found it very difficult to be authentic with, to tell him what was true for me. Yes, you guessed it, Jim, my ex-husband.

I remember this one occasion. I was Read more »

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