Is this how you’re creating your life?

You should visit more often!

You should visit more often!

One of the things we often do as we grow older is looking back at our life and relationships and wonder, “what have I done to deserve this?! I’m a good person! What am I doing wrong?!” Sometimes you also think, “After all I’ve done for them!”

It’s frustrating, I know. So here’s a hint.

Take a look at your expectations. How do you identify your expectations? You recognise them when you Read more »

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Are you the invisible woman?

Sounds like the title of one of those old films, doesn’t it? But there’s nothing frivolous about the question.

When some of my older female clients start working with me, they often say the same thing, “Now that I’m retired, I seem to have become invisible!”. How does one become an invisible woman when, before they retired, they were out there, making a contribution, making a difference?

I have a lot to give!

I have a lot to give!

I have a friend, a very special woman. She’s vibrant, alive, USEFUL! She also has a close family and loving friendships. She’s 87 years of age. She told me recently, that there were some people Read more »

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Prove the world wrong! Here’s how

I keep hearing over and over again from many of my women clients who have been retired for a year or two (or sometimes longer) that the world seems to think that, once you’re retired, your brain turns off, your body shrivels up like a prune and you become invisible. My concern is that, when people keep expecting you to slow down, sooner or later you may give in to their expectations. Don’t do it! Fight back! Here’s how:

Words matter

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Is there anything you have left unsaid?

About a month ago I received a call from the manager of the Spanish guesthouse where Jim, my ex-husband, lived the last few years to let me know that he’d died from a heart attack.

My first reaction was disbelief. He couldn’t be dead! He was only 79! The first few days I felt numb.

9 years ago, shortly before I turned 60, I’d left my marriage of 37 years. But, over the last few years we stayed in touch supporting each other in a variety of ways. That’s 46 years.

I wish I'd said...

I wish I’d said…

As I grieved I began to wonder if I’d left anything unsaid. Were there any loose ends? Did I have cause for regret?

For most of our marriage and for Read more »

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How to bring joy into your life – now and in the future

“‎Today is a new day, one you’ve never seen before and will never see again. Seize the wonder and uniqueness of today! Throughout this beautiful day, you have an incredible amount of opportunities to move your life into the direction you want it to go.” paraphrased from a Steve Maraboli quote, best selling author and behavioural science academic

Boredom seems to be a condition that creeps up on us without us even noticing. And then, one Read more »

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