If you want to rekindle a relationship, try this

Feeling invisible can be very debilitating. I can’t begin to imagine what it must be like to feel unseen, unheard, even unloved? This feeling of being invisible often seems to strike once women in particular retire. I recently started working with Sonia (not her real name). Sonia is 71, her […] Read more »

What stops you from being true to yourself

A favourite refrain of my parents’ when I wanted to do something or other that didn’t meet with their approval was, “What will the neighbours say?” The idea that I had to make sure I did nothing that might Read more »

The beauty of power and how to get more of it

The idea that you can feel powerful doesn’t sit comfortably, especially if you are a woman. It’s a word most people usually associated with men. So when I suggest to a client that she’s more powerful than she imagines, the reaction is ambivalent. That changes when I go on to […] Read more »

If you’d like to know how to change your environment, here’s how

Did you know that the quality of your environment – where you live, what you do, the friends you have, how you get on with your family, in short, your life and all your relationships – they all start in your head, with your thoughts. Your thoughts are a reflection […] Read more »

How appreciation can transform lives

Believe it or not, we have the power to make a huge difference in how people feel about themselves. In their wonderful book ‘How Full Is Your Bucket?’, Tom Rath and Don O. Clifton explain that, with each encounter, however brief, we can make people either feel good about themselves […] Read more »

There’s more to hugging than meets the eye

I love hugging! I know not everybody does but you might like to know that, at least this time, you can enjoy something that is really good for you – not like my favourite pain au chocolat or chocolate ice cream – delicious but sinful. Non-sexual touch has huge benefits: […] Read more »

How can one be authentically authentic?

I had been coached for some time when the subject of authenticity came up. The timing was good. As part of being coached I had begun to drop some of my many masks and was experimenting with telling people whatever felt true to me. It was really scary but I […] Read more »