What to do when a financial crisis hits home

As a life coach I have all kinds of people coming to me but I noticed lately that I have begun to attract an increasing number of people in financial difficulties an area I’m familiar with, both personally and professionally.

Some of my clients, for example, have heard rumours of redundancy and have scared themselves into a standstill, unable to think.

"What on earth am I going to do!"

Most of them are in their late forties or early fifties – a difficult age when you are employed and perhaps about to lose your job.  Whether we like it or not, we live in an ageist society. 

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If you want to get rid of fear, here’s how

Most people define courage as the absence of fear yet nothing could be further from the truth. 

When I was younger, my life was dominated by all kinds of fears which would hold me back in all areas of my life.

Not long ago, I wrote a blog called ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway – really?’  I then went on to share the two biggest examples of ‘going for it’ in my life: leaving my marriage of 37 years and leaving my well paid job at the Institute of Directors. 

These decisions took a long time before I felt able to follow through.  In fact, in both cases I struggled and resisted for a very long time – years in case of my marriage!  Finally, the time came when I felt ready to go for it.  By then I had crossed over into my sixties, in itself an unsettling experience.

At last I reached a place where I felt totally clear and certain, and ready to make my move.  I was able to do what the mere thought of doing had terrified me for so long.  With my marriage, I had reached the point where the pain of staying was worse than the fear of the unknown.  In the case of my job, the pull was the need to follow my heart’s desire:  to become a life coach.

It would be natural to assume, going by these two examples, that all I have to do is wait until the fear goes away before I can make my move.  However, in both cases there were other forces at play.  In the case of my marriage, it was realising that I could no longer stay and that I deserved better.  In the case of my job it was something else entirely, something more intangible but potent nevertheless: I had identified a calling that kept pulling at me.

What I realised was that, although fear never leaves, belief in my ultimate goal tends to feed me with courage and determination – so the fear is no longer as overwhelming.  The last remnants of that fear dissipate when I do the thing I’m so fearful of doing.  That’s why this saying is so <!–more–>profound:  ‘There’s nothing to fear but fear itself’.

There are times when my Gremlin whispers dire warnings that slow me down and that, for a time, stop me from moving forward.  In fact, I have countless examples where stopped myself from listening to my heart.  Fortunately, they no longer last as long as they used to.

Today, at the ripe old age of 68, I continue to move forward – I continue to open myself to learning, growing, experimenting, creating.  I finally know I matter, I finally know I make a difference, add value.  This is the happiest time of my life.

Are you experiencing joy and fulfilment in your own life or is fear holding you back?  Would you like to know how to create a rich and rewarding life, irrespective of how old you are?  If you do, please contact me to arrange a free consultation:

Sue Plumtree

The Life Enhancing Coach

Author of ‘Dancing with the Mask: learning to love and be loved’

Featured on BBC Radio 4 ‘Woman’s Hour’, ‘The Daily Mail’, ‘The Daily Telegraph’

If you want to get rid of fear, here’s how

Most people define courage as the absence of fear yet nothing could be further from the truth.

When I was younger, my life was dominated by all kinds of fears which would hold me back in all areas of my life.

Not long ago, I wrote a blog called ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway – really?’ I then went on to share the two biggest examples of ‘going for it’ in my life: leaving my marriage of 37 years and leaving my well paid job at the Institute of Directors.

These decisions took a long time before I felt able to follow through. In fact, in both cases I struggled and resisted for a very long time – years in case of my marriage! Finally, the time came when I felt ready to go for it. By then I had crossed over into my sixties, in itself an unsettling experience.

Hello, world! Here I am!

At last I reached a place where I felt totally clear and certain, and ready to make my move. I was able to do what the mere thought of doing had terrified me for so long. With my marriage, I had reached the point where the pain of staying was worse than the fear of the unknown. In the case of my job, the pull was the need to follow my heart’s desire: to become a life coach.

It would be natural to assume, going by these two examples, that all I have to do is wait until the fear goes away before I can make my move. However, in both cases there were other forces at play. In the case of my marriage, it was realising that I could no longer stay and that I deserved better. In the case of my job it was something else entirely, something more intangible but potent nevertheless: I had identified a calling that kept pulling at me.

What I realised was that, although fear never leaves, belief in my ultimate goal tends to feed me with courage and determination – so the fear is no longer as overwhelming. The last remnants of that fear dissipate when I do the thing I’m so fearful of doing. That’s why this saying is so profound: ‘There’s nothing to fear but fear itself’.

There are times when my Gremlin whispers dire warnings that slow me down and that, for a time, stop me from moving forward. In fact, I have countless examples where stopped myself from listening to my heart. Fortunately, they no longer last as long as they used to.

Today, at the ripe old age of 68, I continue to move forward – I continue to open myself to learning, growing, experimenting, creating. I finally know I matter, I finally know I make a difference, add value. This is the happiest time of my life.

Are you experiencing joy and fulfilment in your own life or is fear holding you back? Would you like to know how to create a rich and rewarding life, irrespective of how old you are? If you do, please contact me to arrange a free consultation:

Sue Plumtree
The Life Enhancing Coach
Author of ‘Dancing with the Mask: learning to love and be loved’
Featured on BBC Radio 4 ‘Woman’s Hour’, ‘The Daily Mail’, ‘The Daily Telegraph’

Tel: 020 8940 7056
Mobile: 07903 795027
Email: sue@sueplumtree.com

What does it mean to be courageous when we’re older?

There’s a general belief that being courageous is the absence of fear. Nothing could be further from the truth.

In my younger days, I used to allow fear to hold me back. Since then I worked with a life coach who helped me transform my life.

Not long ago I wrote a blog called ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway – really?’ I went on to share the two biggest examples of ‘going for it’ in my life: leaving my marriage of 37 years and leaving my well paid job at the Institute of Directors.

In both cases I Continue Reading…

The Gremlin: the great debilitator

A while back I posted a number of blogs introducing the concept of the Gremlin (your inner critic) and suggested ways to manage it.

I’ve been familiar with my Gremlin for as long as I remember, even when I didn’t have name for it.  I even commented how important it was to be aware of how it works because it affects the quality of our life like nothing else can.

Probably the most important point I made was that, even when we learn to master it, we will always have to watch out because it will never be defeated.

How true that statement is was brought home to me over the Continue Reading…

What does it mean to retire?

When I turned 60 I had to face the fact that I was heading towards retirement, something I had never even considered.  I probably was in denial and only came out of it because of a message from the HR department.  I had been in my job for the last 8 years.  I really enjoyed the work and I was well paid.  Also, I had a really good relationship with my colleagues – all of which I knew I would lose once I actually retired.  The HR message served to put the whole issue right in front of my face.  I had nowhere to hide.

I was really feeling unsettled about the whole idea – losing my colleagues, losing my purpose, losing my routine.  Also, there was the question of structure.  I imagined Continue Reading…