Self-sabotage and other destructive behaviours

‘Sabotaging yourself’, ‘letting yourself down’, ‘betraying yourself’ – each of them are very strong expressions. The obvious question would be: “why would we do a thing like that?”.  My answer is “probably because we don’t realise we’re doing it”.  But we do experience the results even though we don’t realise […] Read more »

Love and loss happens but don't be afraid to try again

Despite the deeply personal nature of this blog I feel compelled to share my experience because I believe the message is important. I was married for 37 years and, just over 8 years ago, I took the painful step of leaving my marriage. I did it because I finally admitted […] Read more »

Setbacks: catastrophes or opportunities?

When things go wrong most people’s reaction is frustration and disappointment.  That’s understandable. However, setbacks, disappointments and failures have a useful role to play in our personal growth and development. I had an exploratory meeting with a client once and I asked him, “what do you do when you have […] Read more »